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Relationship Repetition Syndrome

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Relationship Repetition Syndrome (RRS) refers to the experience of people who find themselves in similar relationship patterns.

Relationship repetition syndrome might include…

  • People who are attracted to or date the same type of people.
  • People who find themselves in the same types of relationships.
  • People who exhibit the same type of behaviors in relationships.

RRS: Examples

Relationship Repetition Syndrome can look differently for different people. Some examples of RRS can include:

  • People attracted to the “bad boy” type
  • People attracted to individuals who are emotionally unavailable or withdrawn
  • People attracted to individuals who they see as people they can help or take of
  • People who exhibit controlling or possessive behaviors in relationships
  • People whose relationships are often quick, superficial, or not intimate
  • People whose relationships become intense or serious too quickly

RRS: Implications

Though it might not seem like it, RRS can have many negative effects on a person’s individual and relational well-being.

RRS can negatively impact us by…

  • Lowering self-esteem/worth, or reinforcing low self-esteem/worth
  • Increasing unhealthy coping, or reinforcing unhealth coping
  • Leading to break-ups, separation, or divorce
  • Increasing anxiety
  • Increasing depression
  • Eroding trust in others
  • Creating or reinforcing resentment
  • Creating or reinforcing attachment anxiety
  • Developing co-dependency

RRS: Reasons

While, RRS can lead to many harmful outcomes, there are many reasons why a person might find themselves in these relational patterns. Some reasons may include:

  • The person’s attachment style
  • The person has experienced a trauma
  • The person has gone through a betrayal
  • The person has a low self-esteem or self-worth
  • The person finds certain types of people or relationships familiar, comforting, or trust worth
  • The person believes they deserve abuse
  • The person does not have positive relationship role models
  • The person has experienced neglect

RRS Strategies: Individuals

If you are an individual who finds yourself in repetitive or patterned relationships, there are some things you can do.

  • Take some time to identify on what patterns you observe and how might they be harmful.
  • Reflect on the benefit these patterns and behaviors might bring you. Do they bring you comfort?
  • Ask yourself where might these behaviors or feelings may originate from.
  • Talk to your therapist about attachment anxiety, avoidance, or self esteem and worth.
  • Practice healthy coping skills.

RRS Strategies: Couples

If you are a couple who is dealing with harmful repetitive or patterned issues, there are some things you can do.

  • Identify what the solvable and unsolvable problems in your relationship may be.
  • Practice healthy conflict management techniques in your relationship.
  • Practice the strategies to combat the Four Horsemen communication errors.
  • Develop a team mentality for relationship problems.
  • Identify relationship goals.
  • Seek couples therapy.

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This page is also part of the Roamers Therapy Glossary; a collection of mental-health related definitions that are written by our therapists.

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