Falling Back In Love
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Falling out of love with a romantic partner is an unfortunate and painful reality that happens often. There are many reasons why partners fall out of love, which can include:
- Unresolved problems and conflicts
- Stress
- Lack of intimacy
- Differences in goals, needs, or wants
- Major life events
- Lack of communication
- Relationship injuries
- Fear of Commitment
- Physical or metaphorical distance
Falling Back In Love
Partners falling back in love is possible, and it can be just as unique and meaningful as the first time. However, all partners must commit to addressing the underlying issue that drove them apart in the first place.
When partners do not address the underlying issues, they can grow further apart and build resentment. Some ways to fall back in love include:
- Acknowledging the problem
- Proactively addressing problems
- Recommitting
- Increasing Attracting and Connection
Acknowledging the Problem
Often, people who have fallen out of love choose to ignore their issues. They may do this to avoid the painful revelation that they have fallen out of love with someone or because they hope the issue will eventually be resolved. Unfortunately, the more we ignore relationship issues, the worse they get.
To move forward and repair issues, it’s essential to acknowledge that problems exist and that all parties are responsible for the dynamics and issues within the relationship.
Proactively Addressing The Problems
Once all partners have acknowledged that problems exist, all partners must work together to move through conflicts and resolve the issues. This can look differently in each relationship but often includes:
- Each partner recommits to the relationship.
- Each partner understands that the past cannot be changed.
- Each partner is open to communicating and receiving feedback.
- Each partner understands the goal of conflict management.
- Each partner develops a “Good For Us” attitude.
Therapy can be a helpful option for partners working on their problems.
Increasing Connection and Attraction
Increasing connection and attraction helps reignite the spark between partners and fosters attachment. Some ways partners can increase connection and attraction include:
- Planning dates
- Prioritizing play and fun quality time
- Creating new memories
- Building Love Maps
- Planning Intimacy
- Assuming the positive in one another
- Turning towards
- Developing a positive perspective of the relationship
- Avoiding criticism
- Having open conversations about s*x and intimacy
Take Aways
Falling out of love with a partner is painful but a reality many people face. The good news is that falling back in love with partners is also a reality as long as all partners are committed to addressing the underlying issues.
- Acknowledge the issues.
- Recommit to each other, the relationship, and to working through issues.
- Proactively work together to address the issues.
- Therapy can be an option for this.
- Having relationship check-ins can also be helpful.
- Increase connection and attraction to reignite the spark and build attachment.
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This page is also part of the Roamers Therapy Glossary; a collection of mental-health related definitions that are written by our therapists.
While our offices are currently located at the South Loop neighborhood of Downtown Chicago, Illinois, we also welcome and serve clients for online therapy from anywhere in Illinois and Washington, D.C. Clients from the Chicagoland area may choose in-office or online therapy and usually commute from surrounding areas such as River North, West Loop, Gold Coast, Old Town, Lincoln Park, Lake View, Rogers Park, Logan Square, Pilsen, Bridgeport, Little Village, Bronzeville, South Shore, Hyde Park, Back of the Yards, Wicker Park, Bucktown and many more. You can visit our contact page to access detailed information on our office location.