What is Relationship Repetition Syndrome
Relationship Repetition Syndrome
Relationship Repetition Syndrome (RRS) refers to the experience of people who find themselves in similar relationship patterns.
Relationship repetition syndrome might include…
- People who are attracted to or date the same type of people.
- People who find themselves in the same types of relationships.
- People who exhibit the same type of behaviors in relationships.
Relationship Repetition Syndrome can look differently for different people. Some examples of RRS can include:
- People attracted to the “bad boy” type
- People attracted to individuals who are emotionally unavailable or withdrawn
- People attracted to individuals who they see as people they can help or take of
- People who exhibit controlling or possessive behaviors in relationships
- People whose relationships are often quick, superficial, or not intimate
- People whose relationships become intense or serious too quickly
Though it might not seem like it, RRS can have many negative effects on a person’s individual and relational well-being.
RRS can negatively impact us by…
- Lowering self-esteem/worth, or reinforcing low self-esteem/worth
- Increasing unhealthy coping, or reinforcing unhealth coping
- Leading to break-ups, separation, or divorce
- Increasing anxiety
- Increasing depression
- Eroding trust in others
- Creating or reinforcing resentment
- Creating or reinforcing attachment anxiety
- Developing co-dependency
While, RRS can lead to many harmful outcomes, there are many reasons why a person might find themselves in these relational patterns. Some reasons may include:
- The person’s attachment style
- The person has experienced a trauma
- The person has gone through a betrayal
- The person has a low self-esteem or self-worth
- The person finds certain types of people or relationships familiar, comforting, or trust worth
- The person believes they deserve abuse
- The person does not have positive relationship role models
- The person has experienced neglect
RRS Strategies: Individuals
If you are an individual who finds yourself in repetitive or patterned relationships, there are some things you can do.
- Take some time to identify on what patterns you observe and how might they be harmful.
- Reflect on the benefit these patterns and behaviors might bring you. Do they bring you comfort?
- Ask yourself where might these behaviors or feelings may originate from.
- Talk to your therapist about attachment anxiety, avoidance, or self esteem and worth.
- Practice healthy coping skills.
RRS Strategies: Couples
If you are a couple who is dealing with harmful repetitive or patterned issues, there are some things you can do.
- Identify what the solvable and unsolvable problems in your relationship may be.
- Practice healthy conflict management techniques in your relationship.
- Practice the strategies to combat the Four Horsemen communication errors.
- Develop a team mentality for relationship problems.
- Identify relationship goals.
- Seek couples therapy.
This page is part of the Roamers Therapy Glossary; a collection of mental-health related definitions that are written by our therapists.
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